I have never been afraid to say what I think or believe and while I try to temper it with kind words and soft eyes
, there does come a time when the best approach is the bold approach. So for those of you who are easily offended, you might want to avert your eyes for a moment as I use some rather crude words: You cannot suck and blow at the same time.
(those of you who averted your eyes can come back now)
Many practitioners that I speak to are constantly trying to do those two things at once and it gets them nowhere, fast. How does this look in business? Here are some examples:
1. They say they want a full practice but when I suggest that they need to market their business, they say they don’t have time or don’t want to. There is discordance in thought and action here. They say they want one thing but their actions support another thing entirely. Make a decision! Either you want a full practice, or you don’t.
2. They say they want to make money but when I suggest they need to spend some money to do so, they say they don’t have enough money to spend. Again, discordance. If you want to make money, you must spend money wisely. Make a decision. Either you want to make money, or you don’t.
3. They say they want to take a vacation but when I tell them to book it, they say they “couldn’t possibly.” Again, discordance. If you want to take a vacation, take one. Make a decision. Either you want a vacation, or you don’t.
My point here is that you have to be mindful of what you say you want and then you actually have to follow up with the consistent actions required to make it happen. Otherwise you are sucking and blowing at the same time! Saying one thing and doing another is completely messing with the Universe and the energies that “be.” How can anyone – physical beings or sentient ones – help you to fulfill your desires if you yourself won’t move in the direction you say that you wish to go?
Business is not for “wafflers.” You must make decisions and follow through with the consistent actions that support them. It’s really quite simple.
So be brutally honest with yourself at each moment of your day. Ask yourself, “Do I REALLY want this?” And if the answer is yes, then assess each and every action you take to see if the action is in support of what you say you want. And if it is not, then repeat to yourself: “I cannot suck and blow at the same time.” And then make a decision. Either restate what it is that you want and follow with the actions that support that desire, or decide that you don’t really want it after all and go figure out what you do want. Just be sure that when you figure out what you really do want, that you follow that up with consistent action in support of your desire. It’s the only way to achieve your goals effectively, easily, and with joy.